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Katie Maloney Still Living With Tom Schwartz Amid Divorce
Being a reality TV starisn't all fun and games—just ask Vanderpump Rules' Katie Maloney.
She and her co-star husband,Tom Schwartz, called it quits in March, announcing the news on their respective Instagram pages—something Katie said sheinitially didn't plan on.
"There was a lot of speculation and rumors happening," she explained on the latest episode of Dear Media's Relationsh*t with Kamie Crawford. "We were trying to just keep it private and go through some emotions and [keep] all of that just between us, then, on a need-to-know basis, friends and family before we made anything public. But it just started creeping out there. So we then we went Instagram, as you do."
That's not to sayshe wasrelieved to finally tell the world about her divorce. In fact, the idea that people were discussing the matter made her "massively uncomfortable."Added Katie, "There were all these things swirling around and I don't like people speaking for me and saying things that aren't true."
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Avoiding public speculation is one thing, but Katie said she didn't even want to tell those closest to her that she was considering breaking up with Tom. "Finally when I did open up and talk to my best friend and my mom, they were like, 'Katie, we've seen it. We'veseen the dynamic between you guys. And as long as you were happy, we just thought, Well, if she's happy, then fine. Butyou don't deserve this.'"
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Katie said her decision to divorce Tom was based on several factors, but the "this" her loved ones referencedhad to do with Tom's apparent inability to evolve. As she put it, "You sit around and wait for someone to start behaving differently or act right. And then it's just like, why am I sitting, hoping and waiting for something like that?"
"It started to felt very disrespectful to myself," Katie continued. "Like, these kinds of behaviors are hurtful to me and nothing's changed. When my behavior wasdestructiveand hurtful to the relationship, I got my s--t together because God forbid I destroy this relationship that is so important to me."
At the same time, Katie saidit's because of all the work she did that she was hesitant to break up with Tom. "I didn't marry this person because I ultimately wanted to get a divorce,"she explained. "We were at one point trying to start a family. That was a goal of ours together...but then I'm also thinking, What have I done for myself in this? What am I getting out of this? Are my needs being met?"
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The answer to that, Katie soon discovered, wasno."Myconfidence had suffered and I felt very insecure,"she added. "I felt like I was coming last in the relationship and in his life. I felt like he was choosingeveryone else in the room and in his life before me."
This realization solidified her decision, and on March 22, Katie filed for divorce. She and Tom remain close friends (and roommates), though.
"We still do things together," Katie said. "We have some of the same group of friends and we have dogs that we're gonna split custody of...he's family to me, and I'm always going to love him, so our friendship is very important to both of us."
Listen to the complete episode of Dear Media's Relationsh*t here. Then, catch up with past seasons of Vanderpump Rules on Peacock.
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